tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21492635.post3132181672028086807..comments2023-08-11T12:17:41.684-04:00Comments on Mismatched Quilter: Katiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03812374680645763586noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21492635.post-29445124606828054682007-09-05T18:55:00.000-04:002007-09-05T18:55:00.000-04:00What an amazing love and ability to keep on giving...What an amazing love and ability to keep on giving when you are a foster parent. It has been so touching to read your post and Finn's comment.jovaliquiltshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04658198685121310571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21492635.post-20066362726597226732007-09-02T12:02:00.000-04:002007-09-02T12:02:00.000-04:00Hi Katie, hope you are feeling better as you read ...Hi Katie, hope you are feeling better as you read this..*VBS* That darn intestional stuff...I too have the senstive GI trac, doesn't take much to throw it a kilter!<BR/>Neat pic of the tumbling blocks...lots of work in that one, for sure!<BR/>And how sweet that the foster mom keeps her 'role' in the lives of these children. DD#1 and same with DS1! both had both been in foster care right after leaving the hospital. We neither met them nor were offered the opportunity. We have a lovely, but very brief letter stating what the baby's preferances were regarding sleeping, feedings, ets. If they were a fussy baby or not, and what pleased them. A few sentences on a sheet of paper...that was all. You could tell that each of them had been tenderly loved and nurtured by someone. DD was very ready to accept love and devotion and displayed little seperation anxiety. DS was another WHOLE story. He was a very cranky baby who wanted what he was used to and I didn't measure up...LOL. Wrong face, wrong voice, wrong smell..a lot of screaming went on for a couple of months until he began to 'settle in'. No follow up was allowed to the foster parents, etc.<BR/>For quite a few years, we added a picture each year to the agency's file on DD, in case the adoptive mom had a question or inquiry. All the pictures were there, unviews at the time my DD found her birth mom, and they returned to the agency together. Maybe being it eas a private agency might explain the no contact with foster family. I suspect it portects those who will take in and care for a child.<BR/>As a foster parent I can speak for how incredibly scary it is, to have the baby's parent standing on your porch wanting to come into the house. They had followed the social worker to our house. Having 5 kids of my own to protect, it was quite unnerving. Especially since the baby in question had been removed for parental abuse. We had that particular baby twice before this happened, but once it did, I told his social worker I couldn't care for him again knowing his parents knew where I lived.<BR/>So you see, there are many sides to 'why' a thing might be a certain 'way'.<BR/>In WI we met the foster mom who had both DD#2 and a few years later DS#3. We saw the children in her home and that was a nice part of the adoption, I think. We did stay in touch with her for quite a few years.<BR/>I've heard back from a few of the foster babies I care for, but with DH's job, a move comes about every 7 years. Usually across the state or further...LOL Hard to keep a contact going. Have a great day, Hugs, FinnFinnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17677133672404343036noreply@blogger.com